All You Will Find is the Key to Happiness.
Updated: Nov 29, 2018
The key to happiness is within your reach, you just have to b grateful for your life.
We live in a world where we’re constantly comparing ourselves to others, it can happen when we’re using social media, it can happen when we’re driving around in our car and see someone driving a nicer car, sometimes we can get so caught up in what other people have and what we ‘don’t have’ we are actually blinded to the amazing things we have in our lives.
Comparing ourselves to others can lead to disempowering thoughts and language and we begin to ask ourselves destructive questions like:
What don’t I have everything I want?
What doesn’t anything good ever happen to me?
Why is my life so terrible?
It sometimes takes a little perspective for us to realise how incredible our lives actually are. It’s my belief that happiness and gratitude are linked very closely: the more grateful you are the happier you will be and the happier your are the more gratitude you will feel about your life and the people and things in it. For me gratitude is the most important thing in the world.
A simple tool (that I use,) which I feel could be employed by anyone who wants to open their lives to greater happiness, is journaling. My journaling is part of my morning routine and if you don’t have a morning routine, I recommend you read my blog about morning routines and how important they are.
If you’re going to start a gratitude journal I’d recommend doing it in the morning, shortly after you’ve woken up. If you write 3 or more things that you’re grateful for and start your day in the mindset of gratitude you’ll notice huge changes in your life, in no time.
Sometimes we don’t even need to change anything in our lives, we just need to change the way we see the things we have. Maybe you have a partner you’re grateful for, someone who’s kind to you? Maybe you’re grateful you’ve enough money for food or for a morning coffee. Maybe your car isn’t the most expensive, but maybe it gets you to work and keeps you out of the elements. Do you have a pet? Maybe they bring happiness to your life? I know my three dogs fill me with happiness all of the time, I’m actually smiling as I’m typing this while thinking about my dogs and how grateful I am for them.
For you it could be anything, whatever makes you happy, whatever makes you smile and fills your life with happiness put that in your gratitude journal.
Carry your journal with you and if you’re having a particular hard time and you can’t change the way you ‘see’ things at that point, take your journal out and re-read the things you wrote, if they make you happy in the morning I promise they’ll make you happy when you’re having a bad time, actually they’ll make you happier.
When we begin to automatically recognise the things that we’re grateful for, this will take us from a place of sadness to a place of happiness.
Live a life of happiness and gratitude as often as you can and if you can’t remember to do this every day don’t worry, just try to do it. The more you do it, the more you’ll do it.
If you’re unsure about doing a regular gratitude exercise don’t just take my word for it: there is scientific evidence that proves by doing a daily gratitude exercise you will feel happier and healthier and it will help you with so many other things in you life like goal setting and positive self talk.
A daily gratitude exercise will dig your out of the deep rut of complaining that you might have found yourself in. Basically what you’re doing is changing the way your brain works by remoulding it and forming new connections. It is now clear that we can continue to change the shape of our brains with our thoughts, imagine the brain is like Play Dough, you can change it’s shape by moulding it.
What we have learned is if we focus on negative things in our lives and approach things with a negative mind frame, we’re most likely to witness and experience more negativity, however if we focus on the things in our life that we’re grateful for we begin to feel happier and see more and more things in our lives that make us happy.
By regularly working on gratitude, you train your brain to become more grateful and after a short period it becomes more than a habit, but something that is like second nature, something you will do and a way you will think without even having to think about it almost like breathing. Who wouldn’t like to think in a way of gratitude like they breath.
Another exercise I use that is hugely beneficial is smiling, singing and laughing. When done together they’re the most potent cocktail for happiness and are guaranteed to make you feel happy, and that’s a perfect word: feel, feel it now, feel happy, try it now, smile while you’re singing a happy song and try not to laugh, it will be almost impossible! This technique will lift your mood immediately - do it now.
Questions to ask yourself:
What’s great about this very moment? Is it the beautiful sky? Is it that you’re safe and warm?
Is it that you’re surrounded by people who love you?
What lesson can I learn from this experience?
What makes me smile?
Make gratitude your attitude by default!
- Steven Farrell